Academics have warned of an "enormous gap" between what parents think their
children are doing online and what they are actually doing.
Professor Dafna Lemish, from the Department of Communication at Tel Aviv
University, issued the caution after questioning parents and their children
about their online activities.
"The data tell us that parents do not know what their kids are doing," said
Professor Lemish.
In one part of the study, Lemish surveyed over 500 Jewish and Arab children
from a variety of socio-economic backgrounds, asking them if they gave out
personal information online.
Almost 75 per cent of the children said that they do, but the parents of the
same children believed that only four per cent of their children did so.
The same children were also asked if they had been exposed to pornography
while surfing, or if they had made face-to-face contact with strangers that they
had met online.
Just over a third of the high school group admitted to meeting with a
stranger they had met online. Nearly 40 per cent of these children admitted to
speaking with strangers regularly.
Fewer than nine per cent of the parents knew that their children had been
meeting with strangers, engaging in what could be viewed as very risky
behaviour.
Professor Lemish said that this gap is wider in the US, where children from
middle-class backgrounds have more opportunity to surf online privately.
In another part of the study, 30 per cent of children between the ages of
nine and 18 delete the search history from their browsers in an attempt to
protect their privacy from their parents.
Professor Lemish suggests that common filtering software may not be
effective, since children will access what they are looking for at a friend's
house, an internet café or school.
And if the child accesses dangerous material outside the home, they will be
unprepared and uninformed when it happens, she warned.
Professor Lemish believes that one problem is that parents are not as
media-literate as they could be.
"This lack of knowledge on the parents' part may be no different than the
situation before the advent of the web," she said.
"Parents don't know what their children are doing on the net, in the same
manner that they don't know what goes on at class, parties or clubs."
Professor Lemish advises parents to give their children the tools to be
literate internet users, and to navigate around any potential dangers. Most
importantly, parents need to talk to their children.
"The child needs similar tools that teach them to be wary of dangers in the
park, the mall or wherever. The same rules in the real world apply online as
well," she advised.
"For example, under no circumstances should a child ever give strangers their
private information over the internet, or meet unsupervised with strangers.
"Children should be encouraged to tell their parents about internet
encounters that make them uncomfortable. It's just common sense and parents need
to teach them that. Talking with your children regularly is important."
At the same time, parents should not disregard the advantages of the
internet. "We tend to forget that it offers our children a source of
independence, a way to explore the world, and helps them meet friends whom they
could not meet in their real world," she said.
"As parents, we need to help them explore the positive opportunities the
internet offers them, and to reduce the risks."
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